A Glass Half Full

I love the quote by Henry Ford, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.”

According to my demographics, I’m a 49-year-old woman, married, have three children—two brooding, intelligent, loving boys, 14 and 12, and one amazing stepdaughter—have one grandchild, and am a business owner. But those are just labels.

I could define myself by my work. I am the owner of three businesses that work synergistically together to serve customers in the aviation industry worldwide. I’ve served on industry boards, Our Lady of the Presentation’s School Advisory Board and volunteered on various committees including the Blue Ribbon Award team. I am also on Avila University’s Board of Counselors, and served on St. Michael the Archangel Catholic High School’s transition committee.  

Who am I? I’m still working on that. I am blessed with a wonderful family and an amazing community that have changed my life. I was recently diagnosed with breast cancer in December 2017. Cancer, really? My first thought was not of myself; it was of my kids. Would I see them graduate, fall in love, get married, have children? My next thought was “Yes! Yes, I will!” I’m a pretty positive person; a friend calls me “a glass-half-full gal.” But the best philosophy regardless of if you are a glass-half-full or glass-half-empty person is that the glass is always refillable!  

So how do I deal with it? I press on with my eyes on my faith and my tribe by my side! When someone you know is faced with a difficult situation, many want to help but don’t know how. But I can attest the best gift is prayer. I have witnessed firsthand the power of prayer. First with my youngest son who had an accident where he ran into a pole at recess and split his head open to the skull. He was so brave, healed beautifully and never let it stop him! We felt the vibration of prayer that day but to experience it for yourself is simply a feeling of pure awe. I used to define success by factors that had to do with my career. But after these experiences, it was more about helping others.

What inspires me most is the divorced mom that sacrifices for her children, the wife caring for her dying husband, the souls that overcome addiction, the mom that cares for a special needs child, the woman that endures miscarriages and adopts a child, the teachers that give their all, or the women that care for those less fortunate and gives a child hope. Life is not about labels or material things—it’s about moments that touch another’s life. It’s about taking one day at a time, walking through the good and bad times, celebrating the gifts God gives us every day. Never let a label define you! Don’t ever be a victim because you give your power to someone or something else. Life isn’t fair. We all have situations happen to us—so what? If you have to, give yourself 15 minutes to have a pity party then pick yourself up and realize your life is not about you. It’s about the people around you. It’s about all the people you can impact, about all the people you love and the people that can love you. What can you do for the people around you?  

So yes, I have cancer. But God put me on this earth for a purpose, and if I can find any purpose in having cancer, it’s hopefully to share this journey to help others—if nothing else but to hold their hand and tell them they are loved. I can also remind them never to give up and share their gifts with others. The beauty is in the journey. So fill your glass with service, fill your glass with kindness, fill your glass with attitude, fill your glass with faith and a ‘can equals do’ spirit, and God will overflow it with love.

The beauty is in the journey. So fill your glass with service, fill your glass with kindness, fill your glass with attitude, fill your glass with faith and a can-equals-do spirit, and God will overflow it with love.