Santa has his list, so make your own!
I recently attended a series of classes to help me work through a bit of the grief I was feeling after the sudden loss of my only brother last year. I took so many gems of wisdom away from the book we read as well as from the room full of folks who quickly felt like old friends.
One thing I did was make a few lists.
I made a list of things I miss about my brother. I made a list of some of the favorite childhood memories we shared. And then I started making some lists that didn’t make me want to cry. I thought about what he’d be proud of when he thought of me. There were at least half a dozen states between us so we didn’t see each other as often as I would have liked, but I know he was proud of his two nephews, the life I’d created for my family and the mother I’d become. He was proud of certain accomplishments and he wasn’t afraid to let me know it.
So rather than make yet another to-do list or a wish list of household projects or gift ideas, and rather than fret about making a list of things I need to do differently in the new year, I decided to end my year by making some lists where I wouldn’t be crossing things off. A few of my lists have titles such as:
-20 things I’m proud to have accomplished
-10 cities I would visit again
-My favorite beaches and boat trips
-Things I love about our home and hometown
-Songs I like having stuck in my head
As the year ticks to a close and you find yourself with a moment or two of calm after the busy-ness of the holiday season subsides, consider finding an old notebook and starting a few lists of your own. I assure you, it is really quite satisfying!
Merry Christmas, Happy New Year, Season’s Greetings and I’ll see you around town!